Based on how drained or empowered you feel after social interactions, or on the way you behave in the presence of people, there might have been times when you labeled yourself as either an introvert or an extrovert. While we all are a yin-yang of both, when it comes to deciding between living alone vs. living with a roommate, these self-observations might play a vital role.
Whether you’re just starting to live on your own, or looking for a change, both living alone and living with a roommate has lots to offer, depending on what you’re looking for.
If you’re almost convinced that living with a roommate will make you happier, let this guide reassure you. But if you’re still struggling to come to a decision, allow these factors to weigh in.
1. Splitting the bills vs. managing expenses on your own
One of the most compelling factors: your expenses will play a major part in deciding whether you can afford to live alone or need to bunk with roommates, irrespective of what you prefer. If you’re at a point in life where you need to save as much as you can on rent and necessities, then you probably should be living with a roomi.
But if you don’t mind shelling out extra to keep your privacy intact, you could be living happily ever after in the comfort of solitude.
2. Consider your idea of a home
Generally speaking, introverts might get drained by too much social interaction, looking hopefully forward to going home and rejuvenating in complete isolation before they’re ready to step out again. If that rings familiar to you, the weighing scale might be heavy on living alone.
On the other hand, if you’re the kind of person who hates being alone and gets bored easily, resorting to calling your friends and family every other hour to come over, you might need a roomi.
3. How you deal with other people
If you’re the kind of person who shies away from confrontation or would rather do everything yourself instead of holding another person accountable, having a roomi will most probably end up being unhealthy and stressful for you. However, you still should learn some healthy ways to confront people – with or without a roommate.
When you overcome this fear, or if you’re already that person who can deal with people and be straightforward about the bills, doing the chores, house rules, etc., you should be quite comfortable living with a roomi.
4. Being comfortable around people
When it comes to the comfort zone, you shouldn’t have to step out of it in your own home.
While some people can be at their comfortable best around all types of people, there remain some of us who have to create a different persona for every different interaction.
If you count yourself among the latter, you might be wise in deciding to live alone, as it can be very exhausting to wear a mask, even at home (as we all know now). And if you are among the former and can be yourself with everyone, kudos to you! You know that living with roommates will come rather easily to you.
5. The freedom of solitude
It’s rightly believed that solitude breeds creativity. If you live alone, there are no distractions, you can meet people in your own time, and you can instantly start working on an idea that strikes without taking heed of someone else in the apartment.
But if you’re someone with a preference to learn from people and collaborate instead of being on your own, the roomi life awaits you!
6. Sharing your space, food and life
Remember hating your sibling for snatching the TV remote and watching shows that you didn’t like, and their loud music that you simply detested? Well, having a roommate could be a similar, more civil version of having to share everything. And shouting ‘MOM’ will not do anything other than make your roomi think you’re crazy.
But then again, some of us might have missed out on this relationship and wouldn’t mind finding out what all the fuss is about.
7. Are you afraid of the dark?
This one’s pretty obvious isn’t it?
But if you are afraid and still want to live alone, make it an opportunity to look your fears in the eyes.
In the end, it’s really about experiences.
If you’re ready to be independent and live all alone, embrace the self-improvement journey you can now embark on.
If on the other hand, you can’t afford to live alone, embrace the experiences and the joys of having a buddy to navigate life with under the same roof.